On Staying Married for the Kids

“Don’t stay married for the kids.” I’ve heard those words from countless men and women who somehow found themselves on the other side of marriage — divorced, and whether out of a desire … [Read more...]

Why You Should Forgive Your Ex (Especially if You Have a Child with Them)

“She looks just like her father.” I flushed every time I heard these words, hoping the discomfort I felt was hidden by my brown skin. I wasn’t exactly sure how to feel, I just knew hearing … [Read more...]

Divorce Runs in My Family

Divorce runs in my family, just like the way wide hips and large-sized feet do. It’s the “gene” I spent years hoping I didn’t have. Kind of like one my grandma passed down — a patch of … [Read more...]

On Not Letting the Second Divorce Statistic Become Your Statistic

At one point in my life all I wanted was to not be a statistic. Craving attention and searching for the validation I longed for from my father, I gave my “innocence” away as a teenager. I … [Read more...]

If You’re Going Through a Divorce…

Last night This week I spoke with several other women about divorce as a young mother. With the exception of blog posts I have written here, it was the most I had talked about divorce aloud in what … [Read more...]

The Lies We Buy Into During or After a Divorce

It’s funny how sometimes one of the hardest things for you to share can somehow become something that you so freely talk about. I am a firm believer that a sense of freedom comes with having the … [Read more...]

A Second Chance at Marriage

For years I equated divorce with shame. My parents were divorced when I was little and I was determined not to follow in their footsteps. I was going to be the one to break the cycle that seemed to be … [Read more...]