Asking for what I need isn’t something that comes easy to me. I’m pretty good at being vague or implying, but I have yet to just come out and say it. I’m getting better at it though. Slowly but surely I’m voicing my needs—and wants.
I’m reminding myself that not everyone knows what I need just because I think they “should know” and not everyone is a mind reader. Not even my husband.
A lot of my fears with asking are tied to perception—how I think others will perceive me, maybe even how I’ll perceive myself. They also force me to come to terms with my truth, one that I still struggle to swallow: I can’t do it all, be it all, handle it all, no matter how much I—my heart—wants to. Alas, I’m kind of a regular human, not a super one like I initially suspected, and at times short on patience.
As mothers there are many things we simply shouldn’t be afraid of, especially asking for what we need. We should throw guilt to the wayside and commend ourselves for having the courage to voice them. Not only are we engaging in self care, but in a sense I believe we are giving our children permission to do the same (hopefully minus the tantrum). Yes, it’s OK to ask for what you need, to be vocal about what you need and to handle yourself with as much care as you handle the people you love.
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